Family, Food, Grief, Healing, Newsletter, Trauma recovery

NEWSLETTER November 2022

THIRD THANKSGIVING Eleven pounds. Eighty-six ounces. Fresh. Organic. Not too heavy for me to lift into my grocery cart. Remember the brussel sprouts. Forget the cranberries. Because I burned my orange, cardamom, cranberry sauce in the crock pot yesterday. Making sauce no one will eat. Because really what we all want are good lingonberries with… Continue reading NEWSLETTER November 2022

#parenting, Family, Grief, Healing, Parenting, Trauma, Trauma recovery

Releasing Heart

Day after day friends and family post photos. Captured images of beloveds in various stages of growing. Openly signified by first day photos--first day of kindergarten, first day of high school, first day at college, first day of new job. Smiling faces drift past me on our way to more immediate needs: Traversing an unknown… Continue reading Releasing Heart

Domestic Violence, Grief, Healing, Hope, Newsletter, Trauma recovery


Hypervigilance. Stuck on high alert. A symptom of unhealed traumatic experience. Leading to constant control of environment, self, and others. Seen in perpetrators of domestic violence, sexual violence, and organizations, governments, and families who follow intense sets of rules. What if those who are trapped by their internal demand for control healed instead? TRANSITIONS The… Continue reading NEWSLETTER, (JUNE/JULY 2022)

Faith, Grief, Healing, Trauma, Trauma recovery


From my collection of unpublished pieces circa early 2018. When it came time for our oldest son to attend Sunday School, I balked. My late husband was no help because the concept of Sunday School was completely foreign to him. Tony was a product of parochial school. In his mind, we simply attended worship on… Continue reading Anchoring

Grief, Hope, Newsletter, Trauma recovery, Writing


Photo Captions: Discovering my book on the shelf at Prairie Lights (Iowa City), Barnes & Noble (Coralville, Iowa), and an upcoming event with Faith + Lead. RECENT & UPCOMING HAPPENINGS New article with Faith & Lead: "Heal Self, Love Others." "Childcare in Iowa," on Ethical Perspectives in the News. Sponsored by the Inter-Religious Council of Linn… Continue reading NEWSLETTER (MAY, 2022)

Grief, Healing, Newsletter, Trauma, Trauma recovery

April Newsletter, 2022

CURRENT REALITY It's April. My youngest son left to explore Europe. My oldest son winds his way toward home for work, doctors' appointments, and visa renewal. Forrest and I passed the first round of applications to adopt a doodle dog. The house is up for sale. I'm interviewing for congregational ministry, wondering and worrying about… Continue reading April Newsletter, 2022

Faith, Grief, Healing, Trauma recovery

Easter Early in Grief

Every Lent a simple wreath hangs on our door. It's a peace sign woven from vines by a third world woman. Someone trying to better her life and therefore the lives of her family by fingers practicing hope. This sign also hung on our door from the first August morning of our grief. I took… Continue reading Easter Early in Grief

Grief, Healing, Trauma recovery

Spread the News

Spiritual writer and griever, Paula D'Arcy*, says of A Time to Mourn & A Time to Dance... "[This] work is a profound and needed teaching about trauma recovery and perseverance, masterfully told." Here are 2 things you can do help people who need this book find this book: Write a review of my book on… Continue reading Spread the News

Grief, Healing, Trauma recovery

Tomorrow’s Dawn

Five and a half years ago I was closing the door of my late husband's mental health practice for the last time. Boxes of client files went into clinical professional storage. Furniture came home, was sold, or moved to my older son's first apartment. Various mementos found their way to family members. Tony's extensive professional… Continue reading Tomorrow’s Dawn

Faith, Grief, Newsletter, Prayer, Trauma recovery

March Newsletter, 2022

Lenten Litany During this season of Lent let us pray,Creating God, produce peace within each of us. Ask our inner peace to radiate out into the world.Saving Jesus, provide lasting healing within each of us. Lead our healing into peace.Advocating Spirit, reveal wounds within each of us needing mending. Accompany us toward healing ways. Saving… Continue reading March Newsletter, 2022