Family, Food, Grief, Healing, Newsletter, Trauma recovery

NEWSLETTER November 2022

THIRD THANKSGIVING Eleven pounds. Eighty-six ounces. Fresh. Organic. Not too heavy for me to lift into my grocery cart. Remember the brussel sprouts. Forget the cranberries. Because I burned my orange, cardamom, cranberry sauce in the crock pot yesterday. Making sauce no one will eat. Because really what we all want are good lingonberries with… Continue reading NEWSLETTER November 2022

Healing meditation, Revised Common Lectionary Text, Trauma, Trauma recovery


Fearless Girl sculpture by Kristen Visbal. For they all saw him and were terrified. But immediately he spoke to them and said, “Take heart, it is I; do not be afraid. Mark 6:50 NRSV When it was evening on that day, the first day of the week, and the doors were locked where the disciples… Continue reading Fear

Faith, Healing, Healing meditation, Liturgy, Trauma, Trauma recovery


In health and human development we often use this term: survive or thrive. An either/or term with an embedded orbit between the two. Teachers, child development specialists, medical doctors, therapists, chaplains, pastors, loved ones, and really most of us want children and all people to move beyond surviving into thriving. Because surviving can be a… Continue reading Flourishing

Faith, Healing, Newsletter, Trauma, Trauma recovery


I've been traveling a lot lately. And in my travels I've met many people harmed by some form of Christianity. Some by my own denomination. Yet all the people I've met still seek something greater than themselves: The earth, other gods, nature, other ways of believing in something. But God, the God I proclaim, seems… Continue reading NEWSLETTER, SEPTEMBER 2022

#parenting, Family, Grief, Healing, Parenting, Trauma, Trauma recovery

Releasing Heart

Day after day friends and family post photos. Captured images of beloveds in various stages of growing. Openly signified by first day photos--first day of kindergarten, first day of high school, first day at college, first day of new job. Smiling faces drift past me on our way to more immediate needs: Traversing an unknown… Continue reading Releasing Heart

Faith, Love

Revealing Gospel

Two seminary professors asked my classmates and me this question: "What is Gospel?" What? Aren’t we supposed to know what Gospel is? Isn’t part of being a Christian knowing this stuff. Even if we are sort of a part-time Christian? Or even a couple-times-a-year Christian? Oh Crap. I’m in seminary and I’m Googling the definition.… Continue reading Revealing Gospel

Faith, Healing, Newsletter, Trauma, Trauma recovery


TRAVELING BACK Looming. Ahead of me. Out the windshield. Clipping along at 70 miles per hour, maybe faster. Mile after mile bringing me closer to what I have dreaded for almost six years. My stomach tells me we are almost there. Thankful Forrest drives, not me. Phone rings. Answer only because it's one of my… Continue reading NEWSLETTER for AUGUST, 2022

Faith, Trauma, Trauma recovery

Trauma, Afterlife and Recovery

My late husband, Tony, was a licensed clinical social worker. He specialized in two specific areas of trauma recovery—sexual addictions and male survivors of childhood sexual violence including clergy abuse. Often Tony came home with this complaint: “I had another new client today who went to his pastor first. His pastor was shaming. Had no… Continue reading Trauma, Afterlife and Recovery

Domestic Violence, Grief, Healing, Hope, Newsletter, Trauma recovery


Hypervigilance. Stuck on high alert. A symptom of unhealed traumatic experience. Leading to constant control of environment, self, and others. Seen in perpetrators of domestic violence, sexual violence, and organizations, governments, and families who follow intense sets of rules. What if those who are trapped by their internal demand for control healed instead? TRANSITIONS The… Continue reading NEWSLETTER, (JUNE/JULY 2022)

Faith, Grief, Healing, Trauma, Trauma recovery


From my collection of unpublished pieces circa early 2018. When it came time for our oldest son to attend Sunday School, I balked. My late husband was no help because the concept of Sunday School was completely foreign to him. Tony was a product of parochial school. In his mind, we simply attended worship on… Continue reading Anchoring