Category: Trauma recovery

Faith, Trauma, Trauma recovery

FEAR

Jennifer Ohman-Rodriguez

“For fear of him the guards shook and became like dead men.”

Matthew 28: 4 NRSV

MEDITATION

Mary Magdalene and Mary go to the tomb. They go on Sunday at dawn. Immediately, the earth shakes. An angel appears whose “appearance is like lightning.” (28:3)

Guards there, on the job. Ordered to keep watch. Commanded to commit atrocities. Feeling stuck in a daily nightmare. With no way out, except death. Theirs and their loved ones. Called moral injury now. No way to stop it. Culture and systems stronger than individuals. These men are merely human.

Guards succumb to ancient instinct this famous morning. In fear, they shake like wild animals. Falling dead like possums. While the women run with fear and great joy. Grounded in something greater than themselves.

PRACTICE: GROUNDING

Stand or sit. If possible place your feet on the earth. Or close to earth through the floor. You may also use hands for this action.

Feel your heels on the earth. Feel the pads of your feet on the earth. Feel your big toes on the earth. Feel your pinky toes on the earth. Feel all your toes on the earth. Feel your whole foot, both feet on the earth.

Now breathe up through the earth into your heels. Breathe up through the earth into the pads of your feet. Breathe up through the earth into your toes, one by one. Breathe up through the earth into your whole foot. First left, then right. Now both.

Breathe. Begin your dawn from here. Grounded.

PRAYER

God of all people and all living things, ground us in your creation. Ground us in your love. Regardless of our actions. Regardless of our past. Regardless of what we have done right or wrong. Regardless of when we were stuck. Regardless, love us. Then. Now. Forever. Amen.

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Healing, Trauma, Trauma recovery

From Hurting to Healing

Jennifer Ohman-Rodriguez

Life has a way of hurting. The unhealed pain of other people impacts our very existence. Nature, despite human taming and because it, will have its own way. No one lives then without wounds whether buried, forgotten, open, mending, or scars. Two truths:

Every human being hurts.

Every human being can heal.

If we all hurt, then why does the ongoing pain of others so often go unnoticed? And when we do notice why do we tend to stand, literally and metaphorically, an arm’s length away (if not more)? Distancing ourselves while also adding commentary as if their pain is an abstraction? Secretly relieved it is not us.

Because a distinct symptom of human unhealed pain from traumatic experiences of any size, duration, and intensity is disconnection. In disconnection, our relationship with ourselves, others, the world, and the Divine is disrupted. This chasm causes us to struggle with experiencing our own emotions, empathizing with and having compassion for others, and the Divine seems to vanish.

Disconnection, also called dissociation, is not a conscious choice. Often this separation from self and others is a lifesaving one. It is our wonderfully made bodies working to protect us from harm during an fear filled event. Yet if left unattended disconnection causes us and others further suffering.

Research tells us that the prevalence of unhealed pain from traumatic experiences in the United States is estimated to be 60 to 67% of the population.[1] In other words, more of us suffer from the unhealed pain of traumatic experiences than do not. The immensity and commonality of our suffering then demands that the act of ongoing healing be included in our thinking, meditations, prayers, and subsequent actions as a basic need for all humankind. That means you as well as me.

Let’s be clear: Healing takes courage, work, resources, healers, and time. The work of healing earns its worth however in the reconnection our minds to our bodies, hearts, and souls. Our true selves and our common humanity are uncovered and embraced so that we see once again or for the first time the pain of others. Reconnection then creates the space within us to accompany others–friend, family member, stranger–toward healing as our empathy grows and shifts into action. This action is called compassion.

Our healing then is the beginning. Our accompaniment of others, the mission we are called into as human beings on a spiritual journey with the Divine.

[1] https://www.cdc.gov/washington/testimony/2019/t20190711.htm

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Healing, Trauma, Trauma recovery

Trauma’s Dance

Jennifer Ohman-Rodriguez
The Dance Of Anger

On vacation rereading Harriet Lerner’s The Dance of Anger. First found on a bookstore shelf during college years. Title speaking to me. Enough to buy a copy then and again now.

Reflect on how we lose ourselves in crisis, grief, and trauma’s afterlife. Seized by the past with future ceasing not in reality but in imagination. It’s a trauma induced de-selfing. Inflicted on our beings. Impacting our relationships.

Causing overfunction in flight or fight. Underfunction in freeze. Our relationships controlled by the remains of our battered selves. Spinning with trauma’s ongoing truths feeding past’s patterns even if thought eradicated. A rising fueling internal and external turbulence. Stepping toward us with sorrow, sadness. Leaving a wondering of how to stop the incorrigible dance pointing toward destruction within and around. Anger’s waltz keeping pain’s memory fed and alive. Each step minimizing compassion for me.

Lerner writes of shifting anger’s you to I. Blame belonging to you. Shame to I. Mine to heal with love leading to a knowing of where I begin and also end. You existing only outside the boundary of me.

So what if I said, “I want different music, a different dance?”

A new step. A beginning. The first in finding myself again.

Healing meditation, Trauma recovery

Trembling: A Healing Practice

Jennifer Ohman-Rodriguez

“Then the earth reeled and rocked; the foundations also of the mountains trembled
and quaked…” Psalm 18: 7

A Practice

Lie down. Pick a point within your body where you feel pain, discomfort, or crap. Close your eyes. Breathe in for five counts filling up your lungs from bottom to top. Send your breath into your pain. Surrounding it. Now breathe out for five counts. Sending some of your pain into God or the universe. Notice you may tremble on the exhale. Allow tremblings their say. Repeat for as long as you receive comfort in doing this kind of breathing. Then breathe in again. Breathe out. Speak these words (or words like it) to your pain:

Pain, agitation, anxiety, whatever your name is, I walk toward you. Because if I walk toward you, you cannot control me. If I walk away, you dominate my body. So I move toward you. With my breath. Breath receiving the emotions you hold captive. I walk toward you naming my emotions as holy.

A Prayer

God, creator of all human emotions, hold me. Assure me of healthy relief. Coming soon. Already traveling toward me. Send courage in my waiting, my trembling, my healing. Amen.

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A Note from Jennifer: You may opt in or opt out of any practice at any time. Not every practice is for every body.

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